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November 21, 2019
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How About Them Apples?
October 3, 2018
Recently, residents at The Saybrook at Haddam’s Safe Harbor Memory Care neighborhood celebrated the start of the fall season with a game of “bowling with apples.” Residents had a lot of fun playing this silly tabletop game – and everyone laughed as we challenged our dexterity, concentration, and motor skills to try to roll apples. When the game was done, our chef gathered and washed the apples then baked them with a little cinnamon. Nothing smells like autumn more than cooked apples!
This is just one example of how we develop activities and entertainment that embrace each season, get everyone involved, and add to the quality of everyday life for senior citizens and their families. Keeping a careful eye on the attitude and aptitude of each resident, we fill our days in ways that make the most of each moment. We love to travel to local destinations, host local entertainers, and tackle as many games and activities as we can handle. Family and friends are always invited to join us, of course, which makes each event even more special and memorable.
Throughout the rest of the autumn season, we have planned outdoor picnics, “leaf peeping” joy rides, special seasonal meals, and other fall-related activities. One of our favorites is painting pumpkins (and gourds), trick-or-treating and costume parades with young family members, and lots of music and entertainment. It is very hard to be bored or feel lonely at The Saybrook at Haddam!
For families looking to involve the senior citizens in their lives with fall celebrations and activities, we offer a few of our favorite suggestions:
Make some natural crafts – Go outside together and gather some natural items such as fallen leaves, acorns, pebbles and pine cones, then glue them together to make a “sculpture” or centerpiece. Or, place items in a glass jar then wrap with raffia or burlap ribbon. Add some dried flowers or plants for extra flair. If you choose to include cattails or milkweed pods, spray first with a fixative so they don’t shed.
Try some “old-fashioned” flower pressing — Pick some late-summer/early-spring foliage and flowers, place between wax paper, and insert into large books. When they are properly dried, place into a picture frame, add to a decoupage project (such as a bird house or jar), or glue onto nice card stock for custom notecards.
Take a fall trip – Drive your grandparents to a local orchard for apple picking, find a pumpkin and gourd patch to walk through, or visit an arboretum or garden center. Look for places with hay rides, apple cider (or, better yet, cider donuts), places to walk pets, and perhaps a hay bale or two to take a rest.
Host a themed party – From football to Halloween to Thanksgiving, there are many days and reasons to host a fun party. Keep your senior-citizen-aged friends in mind when setting the time (early to late afternoon is best) and menu (mix in softer foods and less-spicy options), and entertainment (not too loud or agitating).
Quality of life for seniors includes lots of socializing and participation. We hope these ideas inspire new ways families can include senior citizens into their enjoyment and celebration of this much-favored season! Of course, don’t forget those baked apples!
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Thoughts on Eating Well
September 14, 2018
One of the best parts of life at The Saybrook at Haddam is the dining plan which includes three chef-prepared meals daily, served in an elegant dining room, a private dining room, or outside on one of several patios. The delicious and varied menus provide plenty of options for residents, and they are able to enjoy each meal in a welcoming social setting, dining with friends. This helps ensure residents are eating regularly and nutritiously, which makes a significant difference in their overall health and wellness.
By planning healthy meals that use locally grown ingredients whenever possible, the dining staff at The Saybrook at Haddam makes it easy to eat well. Meals are planned around resident requests, seasonal favorites, and chef-inspired creations. Portions are managed so residents don’t feel overwhelmed with too much food on their plates – but, at the same time, there always seems to be more than enough food for all. Of course, with no shopping, prepping, or clean up, all residents need to do is simply enjoy themselves!
We offer a variety of foods and drinks because seniors often encounter changes and challenges in their eating habits – and we want to remove those barriers for them. In an On-Health article, “Age Related Eating Problems,” Dr. Robert Bargar says it is common for senior citizens to struggle with things like chewing or upset stomachs. This all presents a danger for the overall health and wellness of any senior, especially those living alone. Dr. Bargar suggests seniors keep canned and bottled fruits and vegetables on hand, as well as eggs, ground meats, yogurt, puddings, and juices. These types of foods are available daily at The Saybrook at Haddam, so residents can simply pick what makes most sense for them without any fuss or concern. We also offer mealtime monitoring for assisted living residents who may need that extra attention.
Meals can be a particular frustration for seniors facing dementia or other memory-related illnesses. Many of these folks become indifferent to eating, overeat, or get stressed out with the process of eating. In “5 Solutions for Mealtime Problems Common to Those With Dementia,” Paula Spencer Scott says families sometimes “have to rethink the way the food is presented and served” to be sure their loved ones enjoy meals once again. Some easy changes she suggests include smaller portions, serving finger foods or pre-cut foods, walking before or after a meal, using plain white plates with a contrasting place mat, and keeping noise to a minimum during meals. At Safe Harbor, we agree and follow many of these simple steps to reduce anxiety and increase the willingness of each memory care resident to eat better.
Having said all of this, there are independent residents who are life-long cooks who enjoy preparing meals and baking treats. This is why our fully stocked Country Kitchen is such a popular feature – a place where residents can cook or bake with grandchildren or with friends when the mood strikes. It is fun to see a lot of activity in that room – and who doesn’t enjoy the smells of homemade goodies?
Throughout our lives, we share meals with family and friends as a daily ritual, to celebrate special occasions or achievements, or simply to enjoy time with one another. We view our dining room as a continuation of this tradition where friends gather, enjoy conversation, and get to know each other better. It’s all part of life at The Saybrook at Haddam!
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Support in Sharing
August 15, 2018
Sharing is a beautiful part of life. Granted, we may have struggled with sharing when we were very young, but as we age, we recognize its importance. Sharing is the backbone of happiness and has countless other benefits – which is why we always encourage and seek out ways to share here at The Saybrook at Haddam. One of the best things we can share, of course, is our experience and expertise, particularly in the area of helping families understand and navigate memory-related illness.
Since we opened the Safe Harbor Memory Care community in 2011, we have held many different educational and support events open to residents, their families, and the general community. We have had social workers, Alzheimer’s Association counselors, and specially trained personnel lead these groups, offering valuable insight and information in safe and welcoming settings.
This week we resume our “Caregivers Support Group” monthly meetings under the direction of Kathy Hallett, director of Safe Harbor at The Saybrook at Haddam. As an Alzheimer’s Association trained facilitator, Kathy prepares short topics to present at each support group meeting and helps the group move in the direction that most addresses their needs. Kathy is also prepared to share community resources and distribute a wide range of educational materials from the Alzheimer’s Association.
“For caregivers, gathering in a safe environment to discuss frustrations, isolation issues and sadness is a good opportunity to not feel as lonely,” Kathy said. “We take time to answer many questions, suggest tips, discuss loved ones’ stage and progression within the disease, and foster new friendships.”
The Mayo Clinic says support groups “provide an opportunity for people to share personal experiences and feelings, coping strategies, or firsthand information about diseases or treatments.” It suggests these groups are valuable tools to “fill a gap between medical treatment and the need for emotional support.”
Additionally, The Mayo Clinic says people may enjoy these wonderful benefits:
- Feeling less lonely, isolated or judged
- Reducing distress, depression, anxiety or fatigue
- Improving skills to cope with challenges
- Staying motivated to manage chronic conditions or stick to treatment plans
- Gaining a sense of empowerment, control or hope
- Improving understanding of a disease and your own experience with it
- Getting practical feedback about treatment options
- Learning about health, economic or social resources
It is a privilege to share the experience and education of our talented staff in all areas of aging – but most especially regarding memory-related illnesses. The success of our Safe Harbor memory care community has been in great part a result of the willingness of so many people to share so much of themselves – from our staff to our residents and their families to our volunteers and to the many Alzheimer’s experts who visit with us and help us grow. This does, indeed, contribute to a beautiful life.
Our Caregivers Support Group welcome those caring for a loved one with a memory-related illness. It will be held the third Wednesday of each month at 6 p.m. in the first-floor library of The Saybrook at Haddam. Please join us!
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Senior Moments or Memory-Related Illness?
July 30, 2018
Did you know there are more than 50 million people around the world living with some type of Alzheimer’s, dementia or other memory-related illness? These degenerative brain diseases affect some senior citizens in different ways causing symptoms such as forgetting simple things like words or names, losing the ability to balance a checkbook, neglecting personal hygiene, and encountering other interruptions in daily life. As the disease progresses, so does the need for a greater level of daily care and support – for the patient and their families.
The Saybrook at Haddam works closely with the Alzheimer’s Association and other professionals to stay ahead of the curve regarding treatments, therapies, and care recommendations. We are always fascinated by the amount of information the Alzheimer’s Association makes available to patients, families, and caregivers – and we try to share as much as we can with the people connected to our Safe Harbor memory care community. This is important throughout most stages of the disease, but especially important at the beginning when families begin to suspect something more than “normal aging” is taking place.
The Alzheimer’s Association helps families recognize the difference between what is normal and what is a possible sign of the disease. These can include:
- Forgetting an appointment but remembering it later (normal) vs. forgetting it altogether even after asking for the appointment time and date over and over
- Making occasional errors with a checkbook (normal) vs. not knowing how to deal with monthly bills and leaving them unpaid
- Misplacing something and having to back track to find it (normal) vs. putting things in odd places or accusing people of stealing lost items
Understanding these important differences helps families determine if their loved one is simply facing a “senior moment” or maybe needs to seek an official diagnosis of the disease, preferably by a geriatrician. These expert physicians will look at factors such as drug interactions and even dehydration which can cause Alzheimer’s-like symptoms to hopefully avoid false diagnoses. However, if Alzheimer’s is suspected, a geriatrician has more experience working with seniors to best direct families towards the most appropriate care plan.
Often, when Alzheimer’s is diagnosed (which can be in men as early as age 60 and in women as early as 70), many families become interested in understanding the brain more – a step that helps them better understand the changes taking place in their loved one. The Alzheimer’s Association’s “Brain Tour” is an exceptional resource that explains how the brain works and how Alzheimer’s changes it by destroying nerve cells and tissue.
We know people can have signs of Alzheimer’s up to 20 years before they are diagnosed with the disease. The mild-to-moderate stage can last anywhere from two to ten years with varying symptoms, and the severe stage can last one to five years. Throughout each stage, patients need a tremendous amount of care and compassion – and our Safe Harbor memory care team is proud to walk by their side all the way.
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Music and Alzheimer’s
April 18, 2018
Throughout every single stage of our lives, music is present. We have been singing or listening to music since the day we were born – in the nursery, on the playground, in school and church, at dances, weddings and other social functions. Some of us may have studied music or performed as a singer in a chorus. It is understandable then that our connections with music can be therapeutic when facing illness – especially memory-related illness.
Last year, the Saybrook at Haddam’s Safe Harbor memory care neighborhood began a formal music therapy program for residents. We tapped into the talents of Maggie Carchrie, a local board-certified music therapist who comes to The Saybrook at Haddam to host lively and fun programs including familiar sing-a-longs, drumming circles, and hands-on tactile instrument playing. We also began a “Music and Movement” program with Kerry Kency on alternating weeks. These activities help residents “unlock” old memories.
“Musical programs are one of the residents’ highlights,” said Kathy Hallett, director of Safe Harbor. “Every single resident responds to music, sometimes by singing, sometimes by tapping their toes. Either way, they all find meaning and enjoyment throughout every single session.”
The connections between music and Alzheimer’s was the center of a 2014 documentary, “Glen Campbell … I’ll be Me,” which focused on the award-winning singer’s battle with the disease during his final concert tour. In a review of the film, New York Times columnist Larry Rohter said, “It seems remarkable that Mr. Campbell, a superior guitarist, can still play with such skill when he can’t recall the words or the names of his band members.”
This happens not just with world-class musicians, either. Dr. Oliver Sacks, a noted neurologist and best-selling author of “Musicophilia,” said, “When I’ve worked with people with Alzheimers and various forms of dementia, some of them are confused, some are agitated, some lethargic, some have lost language. But all of them, without exception, respond to music.”
Sacks also says that with Alzheimer’s, “you lose your past, your story, your identity to a considerable extent, but with familiar music, you can at least regain that for a little while.” This is the biggest reason we have incorporated music therapy into our routine at The Saybrook at Haddam.
The Alzheimer’s Association says that music may “reduce agitation and improve behavioral issues that are common in the middle-stages of the disease.” They say that even in the late-stages of Alzheimer’s, “a person may be able to tap a beat or sing lyrics to a song from childhood. Music provides a way to connect, even after verbal communication has become difficult.”
Here are just a few additional tips from the Alzheimer’s Association to keep in mind when selecting music for a person with dementia:
- Identify music that’s familiar and enjoyable to the person. If possible, let the person choose the music.
- Choose a source of music that isn’t interrupted by commercials, which can cause confusion.
- Use music to create the mood you want. For example, a tranquil piece of music can help create a calm environment, while a faster paced song from someone’s childhood may boost spirit and evoke happy memories.
- Encourage movement (clapping, dancing) to add to the enjoyment.
- Avoid sensory overload; eliminate competing noises by shutting windows and doors and by turning off the television. Make sure the volume of the music is not too loud.
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Special Touches in Safe Harbor Memory Care
March 30, 2018
Memory care is an individualized health care specialty, requiring patience, awareness, and a focus on little touches and small moments. Memory loss – which is a disease of the brain – affects each person differently, oftentimes making one day so different from the next. We remember this with all we do at The Saybrook at Haddam’s Safe Harbor memory care neighborhood and we always look for special touches to benefit residents and families who turn to us for help and support through this difficult illness.
One particular frustration with memory care is the loss of clear (or even verbal) communications. Depending on how far the disease has progressed, memory loss patients may have dramatic changes in the way he or she hears, processes, and responds to conversation. By creating a calm, steady, friendly and reassuring atmosphere, the Safe Harbor community helps resident express themselves through challenging moments, regardless of the hour or day. For families struggling to help non-verbal loved ones “talk,” we thought a recent article on caring.com titled “6 Nonverbal Dementia Communication Techniques Make Caregiving Easier” explained this condition well and offered solid advice.
The memory care team at The Saybrook at Haddam employs many of these same techniques each day as part of our ever-growing skill set. The most important thing we do, however, is to take time to learn the personalities and interests of each resident so we can create a therapeutic and engaging atmosphere that has meaning and appeal, and can respond appropriately when someone may have a bad moment or day.
Another frustration for memory care residents is not being able to do the things they used to do. We learn which hobbies they once loved –such as cooking, painting, traveling, listening to music, or doing puzzles. Then we adapt these types of activities so residents can once again (safely) make candy, paint ceramics, take short road trips (to places such as local farms, parks, libraries, shops, restaurants, and museums), or tackle other projects that require them to use fine motor skills, concentration, and creativity. When residents participate in these social and hands-on activities, they have the chance to connect again with things they once enjoyed.
Residents also appreciate interacting with young children, which is why we initiated a wonderful relationship with a local preschool. We visit with this energetic and loving group throughout the school year to work together on projects, sing songs, read books and just have fun. On a recent visit, one resident asked a little girl if he could try on her red beret. The girl happily obliged and giggled her way through story time watching her friend wear her little hat. It was a wonderful moment.
And moments are what memory care is all about. We know our small touches have meaning for residents at Safe Harbor and help preserve (or even improve) their quality of life. It is a rewarding health care specialty and we are honored to be a part of it.
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A Special Sweetness on Valentine’s Day
February 28, 2018
On Valentine’s Day at The Saybrook at Haddam, you may have seen a joyful group of Safe Harbor Memory Care residents traveling throughout the community making special deliveries of hand-made chocolate hearts. This happy bunch had worked for several days making and wrapping the candies, tying them up in pretty bows, and placing them in baskets, ready for personal deliveries to all employees. And when Valentine’s Day came, residents put on their most festive hats and set about the community, delivering candies and plenty of smiles!
Residents visited each office and department handing out candies at every turn. They stopped to see (pictured here) Executive Director Jeff Williams, Receptionist Melissa Vicchito, Maintenance Director Barry Osalza, Food Services Cook Dan Reynolds, as well as other team members. Everyone enjoyed this wonderful surprise and appreciated the gesture of thanks.
Karen Bloomquist, recreation assistant at Safe Harbor, organized the project as a service-oriented activity that tapped into the residents’ lifelong love of cooking and making things. Karen melted the chocolate in the microwave and helped residents spoon the chocolate into heart-shaped molds. They placed lollipop sticks in the molds before putting them into the freezer to set. Once ready, residents removed the candies from the molds, placed them in plastic bags, and tied on a red ribbon. Karen said this fun project gave them purpose and joy – and challenged their cognitive and fine motor skills in an engaging way.
“This project made residents feel so good,” Karen said. “It really empowered them to be able to make these treats and express thanks to our hard-working and wonderful staff.”
Kathy Hallett, director of Safe Harbor, agreed. “We strive to make all engagement opportunities meaningful and purposeful,” she said. “Many of our residents were active volunteers in their communities before moving to memory care. Doing a service project like this is reminiscent of activities from their past.”
According to experienced dementia caregivers, meaningful activities for memory care patients are crucial to improved quality of life. Additionally, the Alzheimer’s Association says that these types of familiar and meaningful activities help dementia residents reinforce their individuality. In addition to giving residents a chance to be creative and serve others, these projects allow everyone to enjoy success in the moment – without being concerned of the outcome.
The Saybrook at Haddam endorses this, which is why the team carefully plans daily activities that appeal to each resident, are engaging and do-able, and tap into former strengths or skills. Residents really thrive in the moments when they are working on these projects, which is the primary goal of daily life at Safe Harbor.
This also is why our Valentine’s Day candy project was so much fun – and residents were able to spread a special kind of sweetness to all!
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Thoughts from our Safe Harbor Memory Care Neighborhood
October 30, 2017
Living with Alzheimer’s, dementia or other memory-related illness means new and different struggles occur each day. There is no standardized solution for treating or managing memory care, since these diseases affect each person so differently. So, when The Saybrook at Haddam set out to create Safe Harbor, a unique and therapeutic memory care neighborhood, we knew customized, individualized care would be at the heart of all we do. Continue reading “Thoughts from our Safe Harbor Memory Care Neighborhood”
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Checking in with Safe Harbor’s New Director
December 19, 2016
The Safe Harbor Memory Care Neighborhood at The Saybrook at Haddam continues to grow and develop as one of the region’s premier residences for people suffering from Alzheimer’s, dementia and other memory-related illnesses. With Kathy Hallett now at Safe Harbor’s helm as its new director, some wonderful happenings are taking place in the community. Continue reading “Checking in with Safe Harbor’s New Director”
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